Saturday, November 21, 2009

Trip to the Mall

Today we left the house around 10am to head towards Arundel Mills mall. First, we stopped to see Rich & Laura, but they were not home. Then we went to the mall and had some lunch at "Fil A" as Zak calls it (Chick Fil A). After we finished eating I got a text from Chelley saying she and Maddie were at the mall also. So we met up with them and went into Children's Place to look at jackets. Then we headed to see Santa at Bass Pro Shop, but discovered Santa had gone to lunch. So we walked around a little more waiting to see Santa. At that point Chelley had left, but Rich & Laura (with Isabelle & Taylor) arrived to the mall. Finally, we were able to see Santa! The boys were not too excited about sitting on Santa's lap, but they didn't actually cry either which is good. Here are a few pictures from our day....

Ready for School

The whole reason for our trip to the mall

Thursday, November 19, 2009

Options...Thinking Ahead

This evening Laura, Rich, Isabelle, and Taylor came to the house to play with the boys while Ben and I went to a meeting. This meeting is the beginning of a big transition for Ryder in the near future. At the moment he is receiving therapy sessions through the Infants & Toddlers program which is a state program. He has been in this program since he was 9 months old and has made a great deal of progress in that time period! At 3 years old he will have to transition and there are two options available for him. The meeting tonight was to discuss these two options in-depth and to help us start making a decision. Between 27-32 months there will be a meeting involving all of Ryder's current therapists, Ben & I, and a member of the special education program from Harford County. This meeting we will discuss where Ryder is developmentally, what his needs are for therapy, and then we will have to make our decision. At 3 yrs old (36 months) he will begin which ever option we have chosen and continue that until he goes into kindergarten.

The two options we have for Ryder....

Option 1: Extended IFSP (Individualized Family Service Plan) which means he would continue receiving the therapy sessions in our home just as he is now. The therapy sessions will be very family-oriented as they always have been. He would continue with the same therapy schedule and nothing would really change.

Option 2: IEP (Individualized Educational Plan) which would be a whole different thing from what we are doing right now. This option would be sending Ryder to a special education pre-school at a local elementary school. It would put him into a classroom with children aged 3-5 and with varying levels of delays and needs. He would receive all of the therapies he needs in the classroom along with working on socialization and school readiness. This program is a half-day program (2.5 hours) that takes place 2-4 days a week depending on the child's needs. Ryder is not extremely delayed so he would probably only go 2 days a week, but we would not find out this until his IEP meeting. The big kicker...my little boy would ride a school bus!! I would rather drive him to and from the school, but Ben (and all of the therapists) highly suggest letting the kid's ride the bus so they can interact and learn the whole school bus thing.

After tonight's meeting Ben and I are really leaning towards Option 2. We think the social interaction would be great for Ryder. We still have a few months to make the decision so I plan to talk with his therapists during their next sessions to see what they think. This transition is something new that is just starting for kids who turn 3 years old after February 1, 2010 so there are a few kinks that are still being worked out. This new program does have the same eligibility requirements as the Infants & Toddlers program which means Ryder's genetic disorder will automatically qualify him so he will definitely be accepted.

We are also going to start looking around at our options for Zak next year. Just as much as Ryder needs the interaction, Zak does as well. We will be looking into the Early Head Start program as well as private pre-school programs for 3 year olds. We are learning that you really do have to think ahead, look at your options, plan, and then make a decision.

Tuesday, November 17, 2009

Nap Time Please Come Back

I really miss nap time! Nap time was the time during the day for me to eat lunch in peace, get some chores done, and just relax for a bit. Now the boys have decided they are just too old for naps. They have boycotted them in the past and gone back to napping, but this time I am not holding my breath for that. Many days they seem to be OK without a nap, but there are days that by dinner time they are ready for bed.

The other day I discovered if I put them in their room for a nap later in the day (2-3pm) they would actually fall asleep for a while. So that has been my newest strategy. Today this strategy did NOT work....

This is what I found when I went to check on them after being in their room for about 30 minutes. No, I did not put their mattresses like that...it was all them. I put the mattress back down and within 15 minutes they had done it again! So no nap today....

On to another topic....
Ryder's speech therapist came to the house today for the first time in about a month. We had to cancel the last few sessions because of the illnesses that our household has been dealing with. She was amazed with the progress that Ryder has made since the last time she worked with him. She finally finished his re-evaluation and will have the full report for me December 1 which is our next session with her. While his therapist was here we talked about the big 3 year old transition that will be happening. She explained it to me a bit more so now I understand the whole process.
Basically, at 3 years old we have 2 choices for Ryder....
1) Continue with the in-home 1-on-1 sessions (IFSP plan). This is exactly what we are doing now so nothing would change. They focus on his individual goals.
2) Go to the local elementary school for small group sessions with 2-4 kids (IEP plan). This would mean taking him to the school and having him socialize and interact with other children. They would focus on his individual goals along with working on school readiness.

Ben and I are going to a meeting on Thursday evening which is all about this process. They will go over it in-depth and explain the options more clearly. They start this process at 27 months since it takes a while to complete all of the re-evaluations, answering questions, learning options, and making the decision.

Fight For Preemies

November is Prematurity Awareness Month! The March of Dimes has organized the Fight for Preemies and has encouraged parents of preemies to use November 17 as a day to share our stories and help spread the word about the March of Dimes and how important their mission is.

Most people who are reading my blog already knows our story, but I wanted to share it quickly for those who are new to my blog.

I found out at 11 weeks that I was pregnant with twins and it was definitely a surprise! At that moment I knew the pregnancy was going to be high risk (not to mention I was already considered high risk because of my Diabetes). I knew all of the bad things that could happen, but I tried to not think too much about it and enjoy the pregnancy. Things were going very well in the beginning...I didn't even have morning sickness. Unfortunately, my good luck did not last much past 18 weeks along. I started to efface at about 19 weeks or so, but was told not to worry too much about it yet. Then at about 22 weeks I was measuring 1cm dilated so I was put on modified bed rest at home. I continued to work until about 24 weeks, but then had to quit because I needed more time laying down. At 27 weeks I woke up and just didn't feel right, I was having some cramping so I called the doctor. They told me to go to Labor & Delivery to be put on a monitor to see if I was having contractions. Apparently, I was having some decent contractions pretty regularly (I guess not having kids before means you don't really know what a contraction feels like!). They decided to admit me so that they could keep a close eye on me and the boys. They tried multiple medications to stop my contractions (including Magnesium which is the WORST!) and nothing seemed to help. The doctors and nurses were all getting me mentally prepared to deliver the boys anytime and it was just so scary. I was given two doses of steroids to help the boys' lungs develop quicker just in case I did deliver them early. Finally, they tried one last medication which worked. After having no contractions for 2 days they allowed me to go home on strict bed rest for the remainder of my pregnancy. I spent a total of 7 days in the hospital and was so glad to be home. I had weekly OB appointments and was allowed to go to the bathroom (take 1 shower/bath a day) and that was it. At my 30 week appointment I was measuring 2cm dilated so the doctor told me I would probably be delivering sooner than later. Only 3 days later I woke up at 2am and realized my water had broken! I was so scared. We rushed to Labor & Delivery where they found my water had definitely broken and I was having some serious contractions on a regular basis. The decision was made to admit me and try to keep the boys inside of my as long as possible, but only a few hours later I was being wheeled to the operating room to deliver my boys.

They were born by c-section (both breech) at 30 weeks 3days on August 5, 2007. Zak was born first weighing 4lb 2oz and was 17 inches long. He came out breathing on his own and I was able to see him and kiss him before he was taken to the NICU. Ryder was born second weighing 3lb 1oz and was 15 inches long. He cried very faintly (I didn't hear it, but Ben said he did since he was in the other room with Zak) and then was not breathing on his own. The NICU team intubated him, put IVs in and rushed him to the NICU. I was able to see the isolette wheel by me, but he was buried under blankets and hooked up to the breathing support so I wasn't actually able to see him. Ben went to the NICU and took pictures of my boys for me. I was finally able to get wheeled to the NICU in a wheelchair to see my babies in the later afternoon. I didn't know what to think when I saw Ryder hooked up to the ventilator and all of the Ivs and wires, it was so scary. Then I went to the next room to see Zak. I was surprised, but so excited when the nurse asked if I wanted to hold him! I got to hold Zak that afternoon and loved every moment of it. I was able to hold Ryder about 2 days after their birth once he was off the vent. Both of the boys had pretty easy NICU stays, but there were issues with infection (possible NEC for Zak) and learning to eat. The both stayed in the NICU for 5.5 weeks and came home with apnea monitors and weighing 4lb & 4.5lbs!

Today they both have asthma, but it is controlled with inhalers. Ryder was diagnosed with a genetic disorder (Klinefelter's Syndrome) and has some developmental delays, but we are working with the county Infant & Toddlers program to help him with therapy sessions. Overall, they are both happy and healthy toddlers!

Monday, November 16, 2009

A Home For the Holidays (Week 3)

This week I did not keep up with all of the assignments, but I did still work on lots of things or try to at least attempt something from each assignment.

Assignment 13: On Sunday Ben helped me clean out the car. I am known to let the car become a collect-all area and never clean it out! Finally, after 2 large trash bags, 1 smaller trash bag, and a small suitcase the car was cleaned out. I hope to keep it that way for a while, but it never seems to last very long.


Assignment 14: Monday I went through the boys' art project drawers and tried to organize it a bit. They have learned how to get into it so things are everywhere now.


Assignment 15: Sunday Ben is going to help me pull out the Christmas decorations so I can look through all of it and see what we actually have. I can't wait to start decorating.


Assignment 16: Wednesday is our normal trash day so this morning Ben took out all of our trash (I can never believe how much trash we have in 1 week!). I also went around the house and re-filled baby wipe containers which always seem to be empty now that the boys enjoy playing with them.


Assignment 17: Wednesday and Thursday I did a few loads of laundry. Saturday morning I finally folded the clean clothes and hope to put them away today (Sunday).


Assignment 18: Friday I worked on finishing up the laundry which seems to never end! I still have about 2-3 more loads of laundry to get to....

Sunday, November 15, 2009

Lots of Videos

Tonight I decided to try and get a few videos of Ryder talking. He has made a huge improvement with his speech, but I am never able to get it on video. Tonight was no different from any other time in our household...Zak always jumps in and talks for Ryder or just interrupts him. We tried for about 30 minutes to get a few videos of Ryder talking or naming things, but were unsuccessful in doing so. Here is what we did get....

Bouncing like Tigger

Hiking the football

Sometime this week I plan to take Ryder into the playroom without Zak and try to get a better video of him talking.

Pictures of Daily Assignments

I wanted to post some pictures of some of the assignments I have been doing around the house.

Pile of things to donate/take to dump/give away
de-cluttering assignment
Some of the recycling that is going out tomorrow
de-cluttering assignment
Kitchen
cabinets/pantry/fridge

Playroom Before
Playroom After
The playroom has become a major source of stress for me recently! The boys have no interest in putting things away. I know many kids at this lovely age of 2 don't willingly clean everything up, but I have seen plenty of kids that will put away things once and a while. Unfortunately, my boys enjoy running into the room and dumping out all of the containers/drawers/etc and then playing with it all. The above before pictures are actually semi-clean compared to what the room looks like on a daily basis. They don't seem to just play with 1 thing and then move on; they like to mix everything up and play with it all! Ben and I had tried to make clean-up time right before bedtime, but it turned into major meltdowns for the boys and myself. We are going to go back to trying to have clean-up time sometime in the evening, but maybe not right before bedtime. Hopefully we will find something that works for all of us or else I am packing up ALL of the toys and they will be allowed 1 thing at a time!!

A Home For the Holidays (Week 2)

The author of the blog I am following to do this was sick with the flu so the assignments were pushed back a bit. This week we are starting with assignment #6. Here we go...

Assignment 6: I have been slowly dusting when ever I see the need. The big thing I need to tackle is dusting the ceiling fans...hopefully I will get to that soon.

Assignment 7: Tuesday morning I pulled everything out of the cabinet in the bathroom. Then I went through it all and got rid of out of date things and consolidated everything. Before putting it back I cleaned the shelves. I even had time to clean the toilet, shelves above the toilet and sink.

Assignment 8: Monday night Ben and I sat down to make our list for who we plan to buy Christmas gifts for (basically the children on both sides of our family) and ideas for those people. I also made sure to write all of our November and December bills onto the calendar in order to stay organized. I did not have time to tackle our enormous amount of change yet, but we constantly talk about doing this.

Assignment 9: A few days ago Ben and I talked about what we plan to bring to Thanksgiving dinner at Shannon's house. We decided to tell them that we will be bringing home-made stuffing, my absolute must have favorite dish! Along with rice krispie treats and broccoli casserole.

Assignment 10: Wednesday morning, while the boys played in the playroom, I spent some time de-cluttering and cleaning the living room. I have a Rubbermaid container full of stuff that needs to find a home other than in the living room! I also need to find a practical place to keep the vacuum other than in the living room.

Assignment 11: Thursday morning I worked on the house a little bit (of course the boys were playing in the playroom and watching some PBS Kids TV). First, I tackled our enormous laundry pile (I have been avoiding going into the basement since Ben told me about our mouse issue!). Then I organized the coat closet in the living room so that I could fit our vacuum in it.


Assignment 12: Saturday afternoon Ben went through the spice cabinet to organize and get rid of anything that is out of date. I put away laundry, cleaned the boys' bedroom, emptied out the car, and picked up the playroom.

On Sunday I went grocery shopping without my 2 "helpers" which is always a nice treat!

Catching up on other Assignments...


Assignment 3: Monday night Ben and I sat down to make our list of people we will buy gifts for as well as possible gift ideas. We are hoping to stick to our list and budget we have discussed. We also made our list of people to send Holiday cards to. Now I need to work on getting a good picture of the boys for the cards!


Assignment 4: This I did do on Friday while the boys were with Rich & Laura. After I dropped them off with Rich at lunchtime I drove to Annapolis and bought myself some sushi! Then I came home and ate it (yum). Once I was done eating I laid down and took a nap...an uninterrupted nap! I woke up in time for some TV and dinner. I then took a nice long hot shower and got in bed to watch TV and wait for Ben to get home (he made it home around midnight). Taking a day for yourself is always refreshing!

Saturday, November 14, 2009

5 Generations Picture From Maine

Today we received a box in the mail with 2 framed pictures from the photo shoot in Maine. Also, we received a CD with all of the pictures that were taken during the photo shoot. I wanted to share some of them with everybody....

5 Generations!
Group Photo
Ginnie, Peg, Tim, Ben, Zak, April
Grammy Rivers, Grampy, Ryder
Our Family
Our Family with Grammy Rivers
(Zak & Ryder's great-great-grandmother)
Us with Tim and Grammy Rivers
Ryder, Ben, Tim, Zak, Ginnie
Grammy Rivers
Peg & Tim
Grammy Rivers
Grampy & Grammy Rivers
(mother & son)
Tim & Peg
Ryder with his pet worm!

Friday, November 13, 2009

New Digital Camera

As many of you probably already know I have found a digital camera that I just love! Ben and I have looked at several different cameras and continually came back to this one. I have always wanted a DSLR camera, but they are way too pricey so this camera is just below those. I have been telling family that I would like gift cards to Best Buy for Christmas so I could buy this camera.

Well, today I got an e-mail telling me that Best Buy had posted their Black Friday ads and don't you know what I found...my camera will be $100 off the normal price! This caused me to panic and not know what to do. I just can't imagine passing up this opportunity to save $100 on the camera I have been eyeing. My mom called to tell me that she got me a gift card to Best Buy (Josephine's school was doing a fundraiser selling gift cards) and I could have it as soon as they came in. After talking to Ben he agrees that we can't pass this great deal up so we plan to go out early on Black Friday to get my new camera!! I am so excited!

With that being said...if any family is reading this and still needs to know what I would like for Christmas...money (to pay myself back for buying the camera) or Visa gift card (to use for groceries or other daily needed things since I will be paying for most of the camera out of my pocket).

Here are a few pictures of this amazing camera I have been talking about...




The screen on the back also moves to various angles which makes taking pictures at different heights easier. Also, there is a button to push that will switch from using the screen to using the viewfinder if I am in the sun (usually the screens don't show up at all in the sun!).